Showing posts with label Personal Development. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Personal Development. Show all posts

Friday, January 03, 2020

10 Books That I Read In 2019

10 books that I read in 2019
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Have you ever noticed what is the thing most common in the most successful people in the world?


Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Elon Musk, Imran Khan, Dan Pena, Jeff Bezos... all these leaders are good readers. They read several books a month. If you are already a reader that's well and good but if you are not, try to get started from now. Because a book is an extract of years of experience of its author. You can gain that giant amount of experience in a matter of hours. It is a good way to utilize free time too. 

I personally love to read. There is no specific subject I read about but apart from my subject (computer science) I prefer to read about just personal development and history. However, I am trying to add more categories per year. There are arguments in favor of reading fiction but I would rather go for reading biographies. To avoid getting bored of reading, I do not read two consecutive books on the same subject. This is my personal opinion. Of course you can make your own flow.

Here is a list of the books I read in 2019. I will post a brief summary of each in coming weeks.
  1. The Warrior State: Pakistan in the Contemporary World By T.V. Paul

  2. The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind By Joseph Murphy

  3. The Life and Work of Jalal-ud-din Rumi By Afzal Iqbal

  4. Rich Dad Poor Dad By Robert Kiyosaki

  5. Jinnah, Pakistan and Islamic Identity By Akbar S. Ahmad

  6. Think and Grow Rich By Napolean Hill

  7. Freedom of Thought and Islam By Shafique Ali Khan

  8. The One Thing By Gary W. Keller and Jay Papasan

  9. Handbook: For Technical Writting By Charles T. Brusaw, Gerald J Alred, and Walter E Oliu

  10. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck By Mark Manson

Thursday, December 19, 2019

'Being yourself' Can Actually Ruin Your Life

Be yourself Can Actually Ruin Your Life
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There is a time that comes in everyone's life at least once called bad time or hard time. At that time, you feel so fucked up that nothing makes any sense. You feel like some invisible evil power has blocked inflow of ideas to your mind. You have a burning desire to do something that can "change the world" or do something similar but you are doing nothing at all. You fly like a bewildered butterfly and ask some wisdom-guy:

I don't know what to do...

I don't know where to start and how start...

I don't know how to do the things that I want to do...

I don't know what to do with my life...

And they say the magical words in the most mystical way:

"Be yourself."

You roll your eyes up, go to ecstasy and feel the magic. You rush to your home and start doing the things you can do. But unfortunately that magic does not last for too long and bang. You are back to your old awful situation.

Actually, these words sounds so powerful that we start believing it. But you know what, this is the worst advice ever. These can literally ruin your entire life.

Whenever you hear these words from a super successful wisdom-guy, ask your self just one question. Who the hell am I? You might be worst than any shit at that time. Does it mean to be more like shit for the rest of your life? Does the wisdom-guy is suggesting you to be the asshole you are at the moment for the rest of the year you have? Hell no.

The actual problem is not with the words. The problem the way you interpret.
Let me tell you a story to give you a better idea of what these words actually mean.

Once upon a time, somewhere in the world, there were three brothers who were blind by birth. Suddenly one of them popped an idea to see how an elephant looks like. Yes they can't see anything but they can feel it and relate to other things. So they went to a zoo and the zookeeper led them all to an elephant cage.
The first brother touched its legs and said oh, "the elephant looks like pillars." The second touched its ears and  said, "nup, it looks like a hand fan." The third one touched its belly and shouted "shut up you idiots! it looks like a fucking wall."

Moral of the story is that in order to get full idea of something, one really need to look at it from different perspectives. They were all right in their own perspective but no body was in face right. They were looking at a single part of the elephant which got them no clear idea of what it really looks like. Everyone was right on his own but actually non of them was right because they were looking too closely. The lens, the perspective through which you see things really matters.

So when you hear, "just be yourself", do you know enough about yourself that by being yourself you will get a successful and meaningful life? I bet you don't know. That's why you are where you are.

The advice itself is not wrong but it is incomplete. The complete version could be "be the best version of yourself".

If you agree with this then problem is half solved. All you need to know is to know yourself. Figure out who you are and what is the actual shit you would like to deal with.

You can figure this out be trying each version of yourself for sometime, dealing with different shits in each version. You need to investigate what kind of material you are made of. Are you the kind of material who would like to suck his boss' balls? or you are the kind of person who would prefer to mind his own business? Are you the kind of person who loves to hangout with random hookers or that kind of person who would stay loyal to one and only one partner?

Find out your best version of yourself for each role you have to play. Best version of yourself as a parent, as a child, as a student, as a teacher, as a person and so on.

PS: Victoria Ayres shares an effective way to find out who you are.

Sunday, April 14, 2019

How Reading More Helps You Get Smarter: Benefits of Reading

When you read a book, you live a certain time of the author's life. It takes less than a week on average to read a book of average size. Within this one week, we acquire all the knowledge and experience that the author has got in many years. Reading is so powerful that it could lead you to a word which does not exists, it could make you believe the things that you have never heard of. It can make you rich, smart and successful. This is why reading is one of the most common things among successful people. Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Dan Pena and many more like them recommend to read regularly on daily basis.
Any kind of reading either a book, an article, journal or magazine can boost memory and empower imagination. It stimulates different areas of your brain and develops new neurological pathways inside your main processing unit which has delightful effects on your personality. Effective reading broadens your vision and always push you one step ahead in the competition. Effective reading not only means that you understand what you read but you actually act upon what you have learned. I am not saying that one should start behaving like a zombie after reading a fiction. Although reading fiction is also recommended and it has its own outcomes and reflections.
Once, I heard an Indian motivational speaker, I just forgot his name, saying that you never earn more than you personality is worth of. The more you invest in self development, the more you earn. Dan Pena says
Show me your friends and I will show you your future.
If you have books as your friend, Dan will absolutely show you a bright future. Ernest Hemingway said:
There is no friend as loyal as a book.
But many of us are not loyal with our loyal friends. Our readings are quantity driven not quality driven. We want to read more and more and forget what we have already read before. This kind of behavior does not help us to thrive instead it  stagnates us. Ineffective reading rises level of frustration. If you are reading by keeping quantity in mind, you are waisting time. Time is money and money is power. You are losing power.
There are some techniques can really speed up you reading with little or no affect at all on the quality. At the end, I have included a video which I follow and I would suggest you too.
Below is a list of reasons why you should read more.
  • Improves your 'theory of mind'
  • helps you be more empathetic
  • supercharges learning and sharpens memory through imagination
  • Improves decision making and emotional processing
  • Improves your vocabulary and verbal skills
  • Slows down your mental aging
Do you have more reasons in mind? Tell us below in comments.

Wednesday, April 10, 2019

5 Mistakes that I've Made: You Don't Repeat It.

Regretful Man

Nathan Dumlao
Being human, all of us are subject to make mistakes. Mistakes which can take us down to the hell or up to the sky. No body wants to make a single mistake but it just happens. It happens without our intention. I haven't heard of anyone who intentionally make mistakes again and again.
What the word mistake means to me is if we set a goal and take actions to achieve those goals and we mis our target, we call our action a mistake. It means we failed to hit our target by taking an action with a bad timing or in a wrong way. We plan, we prepare and pursue towards our goal. If we mis, we get an unwanted reaction which nobody loves. It is up to us how do we react to the reaction. Either we repeat the same mistake, which sounds foolish, doesn't it? yes it does sound foolish. or we learn from it and change our course of action.
So I can say that there are two sides of a mistake too. Here I will share with you 5 mistakes that I have made which I don't want you to make.

Monday, July 30, 2018

QUESTION: How to choose a career path as a student?

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QUESTION: How to choose a career path as a student?

If you are a student and you are confused about your study area or it is hard for you to decide a career path then congratulations, you are not alone. Almost every student is feeling the same. It is the beginning of tough time that every successful person you see today has been through. You are not any special. It is a panic for everyone but the level of intensity vary from person to person.

I will use students and people interchangeably.

Some people get good mentor-ship while some have got a good luck which reduces their pain in some way. But many students have to figure out their way by own. Sounds disheartening, isn’t it? It’s OK. Get over it.

I was sort of the latter kind of student but luckily at the end of my degree I meet with my most respected mentors. Whenever I have to make a choice, I surely contact them and request them for their advice. It does not mean that I follow 100% of the advice all the time but it makes like more than 50% of my decision.

Here, I am going to share my own personal experience that I had throughout my graduation. When I was a student, I rarely asked people what should I do or which areas of computer science have larger scope. Instead I tried to at least get familiar with as many branches of computer science as I could. I learned basics of web engineering, apps development, desktop development, Networking, Game development, software architecture, OS, Databases and algorithms etc. The question is how I did all this? Well, every student who consider their degree as a serious business do better than me. I am average. Not the brightest, not the most gifted human…

Here, I am going to share my own personal experience that I had throughout my graduation. When I was a student, I rarely asked people what should I do or which areas of computer science have larger scope. Instead I tried to at least get familiar with as many branches of computer science as I could. I learned basics of web engineering, apps development, desktop development, Networking, Game development, software architecture, OS, Databases and algorithms etc. The question is how I did all this? Well, every student who consider their degree as a serious business do better than me. I am average. Not the brightest or most gifted human…

Never make a choice until you know all the possible choices you have. [Advice]

I am glade that I got involved in many things. When I was learning android development, I never thought that one day I will need to make android plugins for unity.
When I was learning web, I never thought that I will get a remote internship as a JavaScript developer in the Silicon Valley of US.

Now as a fresh graduate I have enough options to choose from for the rest of my career because I never limited myself to one specific thing. Computer Science and other areas related to computer are evolving with super-fast speed. No body guarantees the existence of things in future which exist today. Again, never choose when you do not to have.

But frequently switching among things or doing things in parallel is arguably a bad idea but who cares. It is sort of personal taste. Whether you embrace the power of doing one thing or you just go and do it all. Obviously you can shift from many to one at any time you want. After all the end goal is self-satisfaction and without self-satisfaction, nobody can reach nowhere. So, it’s up to you.

In conclusion, I would recommend you to stop asking and start working. When you ask someone for advice, you get a story in response and when you work by yourself, you get experience in return. And I think experience is a better choice than a story. So, go and get your hands dirty with many colors and see which colors suit you the best. Choose few and wash the rest or keep all of them. Again, it is you who have to decide. So role up your sleeves and create your story the way you want, the way you like.

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

10 Different Types Of Bosses And How To Work With Them

There are a lot of factors which can affect your work potentials such as technology, stress, ego clashes, health, perceived discrimination, and The Boss. Getting to know the type of your Boss you have is an important step towards having a professional relationship with them. After all, your Boss can dictate whether your stay with the company will be in favor of the organization or not. He/She is the one who decides to keep you or to kick you out.
Here are 10 different types bosses and how you can relate to them.

1. The Workaholic

The workaholic is a boss who tends to work overtime, even during holidays. They are typically extremely enthused about completing undertakings on time and will recommend additional work hours keeping in mind the end goal to accomplish this. The vast majority of them barely go on sick days or take leaves from office.
Working under a workaholic can be stressful, especially if you’re not one. There’s a high chance it will greatly impact on your work-life balance. If you want to get yourself promoted in this sort of environment, make sure you complete your work on time. They will have no reason to hold you back for more work.

2. The Visionary

Visionary bosses tend to dream a lot about the company’s potential, and the future. They have a lot of ideas about which direction the company can take but usually lack the initiation capability.
In order for you to charm yourself to a visionary boss, always attempt to enable them to accomplish their ambitions. Make a contribution to help them understand their goals and follow it up on a regular basis. If everything works fine, they will have you to thank and you might get a promotion for it.

3. The Micro Manager

Micromanagers are dreaded in any workplace. Most bosses tend to become micro managers whenever the company is making losses. They will start concentrating on every single action you make, be it work or non-work related. They might concentrate on things like how long you took during lunch, what amount of work you’ve been able to deliver in a day or how much time you’ve spent on the phone.
If you have this type of boss, the solution that will work for you is to keep them busy. The only way to achieve this is by making sure you complete your tasks in time. They will have so much work to review that they will forget about micromanaging.

4. The Pace-setter

Pace-setter bosses like to test their employees by giving them constant tasks in order to find how good they are. They might give you challenging tasks to accomplish within a specific time frame while expecting the best results from you. They always expect you to be fast and better each time.
You will have to work hard under a pace-setter boss to stay their good books.

5. The Under Qualified

This boss is one who is less taught than you or knows minimal about the organization and its procedures. They will rely on you to provide information they might not be aware of. But never underestimate their power because a boss is always a boss even if you leave him behind in education.
Have a close relationship with them and explain them everything they need to know. Once they get up to speed with everything, they will have you to thank.

6. The Squeezer Boss

This type of boss squeeze every last ounce of talent from the employee. They know what each employee is capable of and tend to be the best to work with. They will give you work according to your talent which will boost your resume. The problem with this kind of bosses is that they might insist on you to work overtime and even on off days.
Even though your career might take off, your life work balance will be greatly impacted. Unfortunately, there’s little you can do with this type of a boss. Your only options are to ask for a pay rise for your extra input or to find an alternative job.

7. The Intimidator

These bosses are often called dictators also. They fall back on terrorizing strategies, for example, hollering, when speaking with their employees. They will chide you on the off chance that you neglect to perform in an agreeable way.
A good way of dealing with such a boss is by making sure you do your job. Never give them a single chance to yell at you. Speak with them about the work you're doing if needed, yet don't capitulate to their terrorizing strategies. They will appreciate you for this.

8. The Unpredictable

If you have an unpredictable boss, then there’s not much that you can do. These bosses’ actions are hard to predict. Whereas they may be satisfied with something today, the same may not necessarily be true tomorrow. This means that you’ll always have to break into a sweat whenever you’re reporting to them. The only way you can try and alleviate their “unpredictability” is by ensuring that you do your work as expected.

9. The Traditionalist

These supervisors tend to stick to old organization customs, and they may bring this up during meetings. They have most likely been in the organization for quite a while and they don't warmly welcome change. Never try arguing with a traditionalist, and always be responsive to their thoughts. You never know, some of their old strategies may really work.
If there is an easier way of doing something, bring it to their attention in a kind way. They don't prefer to feel challenged. They'll get more open to your thoughts once they feel you're responsive to theirs.

10. The Perfect Boss

A perfect boss treats the employees in the workplace fairly. They are open to suggestions and are willing to give you space to do your work. They will exhort you on your vocation prospects and may enable you to accomplish your professional objectives. Moreover, their work relationship does not end in the workplace. They are constantly prepared to catch up with you on your most loved group's diversion after work hours.
Unfortunately enough, the world does not have the same number of ideal bosses as everybody would wish. On the off chance that you have a perfect boss, value their endeavors! They will leave an enormous void once they leave the organization.

Thursday, April 06, 2017

10 Failed 10 Successful

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dr suess

Dr Suess 

The Cartoonist, Writer and Animator

Published over 60 books including The Cat in the Hat and Green Eggs and Ham but he was rejected a shocking 27 times before publishing his first book And to Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Streets.
Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you.
You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. 
The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.
jk rowling

J.K Rowling  

The Novelist, Screenwriter and film producer 

Best known as the author of the Harry Porter, fantasy series 
The Harry Porter manuscript was rejected by 12 publishers before Bloomsbury picked it up. Now the series has been translated into 73 languages and has earned over $400 million dollars in book sales.

We do not need magic to transform our world. We carry all of the power we need inside ourselves already.
If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. 

James Dyson 

The Inventor, Industrial designer and founder of Dyson company 

Best known as the inventor of the Dual Cyclone bagless vacuum cleaner  
He stated that:
There are countless times an inventor can give up on an idea. By the time I made my 15th prototype, my third child was born. By 2,627, my wife and I were really counting our pennies. By 3,727, my wife was giving art lessons for some extra cash. These were tough times, but each failure brought me closer to solving the problem. 
Enjoy failure and learn from it. You can never learn from success.
After the idea, there is plenty of time to learn the technology.
There is nothing wrong with things taking time.

 Steven Spielberg 

Director, Screenwriter and Producer 

He is one of the founding pioneers of the New Hollywood era and one of the most influential personalities in the history of film, perhaps the best-known director of Hollywood.
He was rejected for 3 times by The University of Southern California due to poor grades in high school but later the university awarded him with an honorary degree. Steven Spielberg directed 51 films and won 3 Oscars. 

I don't dream at night, I dream at day, I dream all day, I'm dreaming for a living.
All of us every single year, we are a different person. I don't think we are the same person all our lives.
People have forgotton how to tell a stroy. Stoties don't have a middle or an end any more. They usually have a begining that never stops beginning. 

 Jack Canfield

Author, Motivational Speaker and Entrepreneur

Canfield and his co-author faced 144 rejections from publishers in a period of 14 months. His book Chicken Soup for the Soul the third best-selling book in US during mid 1990s. More than 500 million copies has been sold in over 40 languages.

Decide what you want. Believe you can have it. Believe you deserve it and believe it's possible for you.
Don't worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don't even try.
Everything you want is the other side of fear. 

 Soichiro Honda

Founder of Honda Motor Co., Ltd

His factory was hit by a bomb in World War 2. He rebuilt it. Then an earthquake leveled it. He denied to admit defeat and reconstructed it and now you know where the company stands.

Instead of being afraid of the challenge and failure, be afraid of avoiding the challenge and doing nothing.
Mnay people only dream about success, while for me success is to overcome permanent failures.
Success represents the 1% of your work, which results from the 99% that is called failure.

Sylvester Stallone

Actor, Filmmaker and Screenwriter

Well known as Rocky Balboa and John Rambo

Stallone born with some parts of his face paralyzed. He was rejected 1500 times (who counted this idk) by everyone in the film industry that he could get a meeting with. 
He became the third person in history after being nominated for Best Original Screenplay and Best Actor award for the same film, after Charlie Chaplin and Orson Welles.

Life is not about how hard of a hit you can give. It's about how many you can take and still keep moving.
You must fail a hundred times to succeed once. 
 Don't discuss your dreams, pursue them.


Thomas Alva Edison

The inventor

Ameria's greatest inventor

Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before successfully inventing a long-lasting and highly efficient lightbulb.

The most famous and very motivational quote which is one of my favorite quotes
I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percenet  perspiration.
 Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.
Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to seccceed is alway to try just one more time.
steve jobs

Steven Paul Jobs 

The Inventor, Businessman and Industrial designer

Co-Founder and CEO of Apple Inc, CEO and majority shareholder of Pixar and Founder, member of The Walt Disney Company's board of directors and CEO of NeXT

Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.
Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.
 Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
My favorite things in life don't cost any money. It's really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time.
I'm convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non-successful ones is pure perseverance. 


 William Henry Bill Gates

Business magnate, Author and Investor

Co-Founder, CEO and Chief Software Architect at Microsoft

Bill Gates was dropped out by Harvard University. The business, Traf-O-Data he was co-owner of, failed. Driven by his passion for computer programming, Gates built what would become the world's largest software company. Microsoft went public in 1986, and by the next year its rising share price made then-31-year-old Gates the world's youngest self-made billionaire. An investor in the initial public offering would have seen a return of 30,207 percent. 
If you can't make it good, at least make it look good.
I really had a lot of dreams when I was a kid, and I think a great deal of that grew out of the fact that I had a chance to read a lot.
Technology is just a tool. In terms of getting the kids working together and motivating them, the teacher is the most important.
Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world. If you do so, you are insulting yourself.
Patience is a key element of SUCCESS.